The Futile Mind

The Futile Mind

In the back of a dark crowded room lies the thought of a man. Pondering day and night in an attempt to disgusting truth  in its rarest form. Thinking its an old concept and yet many have not adapted to the process of thinking, perhaps the root is futile thinking. Lets explore the intricacies of thought processes. The purpose of this exploration, is to identify ones own thoughts and to determine how buzzard our own thinking can become. 

The bell rings every morning before the start of mans shift, he'd prepare each day but could not enter the work doors on time. His boss met with him to discuss the issue and his response was the work clock is faster than his own watch. The problem  is in the mans thinking. He believes the boss should change the time and set to meet and accommodate his thinking. How would you handle this issue? What thought process will you implement?  Believe it are not, many of us want others to adapt to our futile way of thinking, and really we need a reality check. 

Futile thinking produces nothing. 

Here's a clique used by many: Practice makes perfect. The question becomes if a fruitless, ineffective, non-producing mind practices the same way each day, will he be effective? What are your thoughts? Remember a futile mind is incapable of producing useful results. It take exercising your brain. Deliberate thinking. Our society has become dependent thinkers. Many of us want the thoughts of others. Technology, affords us immediate results. This is good but, for sluggish thinkers, it's a disaster. 

A man sets up camp in an area infested with red ants. Prior to his arrival he learned the area in which he would travel became  blocked with logs from trees. The man gets out of his 4 wheel drive, hooked a chain to the front of his car, and the log, in his attempts to back up his front end tore off. He asked himself why the front end became damage. But, the truth of the matter is his futile attempt to move logs from a fallen tree was ineffective from the beginning. Much of our problems lie in our thinking and perception. We must understand that our perception is our reality. 

The reality is, futile thinking produces nothing. 

To reduce futile thinking, the road maps of our mind must change. 

The safe course

Faith in oneself is the best and safest course.
Michelangelo

I was wondering how does one have faith in themselves. With daily failures and questions about the future, it seems impossible to believe in oneself. Well, that's the clique many would hope as a people we believe. Let us take it a little deeper. Faith, what does this really mean? Faith strong believe in someone or something (www.merrian-webster.com/dictionay/fatih)
The question becomes: If Faith in oneself is the best and safest course, would it be fair to say without faith your course is unsafe?
Having strong faith in self comes with lots of responsibilities. It includes making good decisions, remaining loyal to the cause and understanding when the course you've taken is unsafe. Having faith in what you decide to do requires investigation before you leap the wrong way.

Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of  things not seen (Hebrews 11;1 KJV). The core of the matter, is unbelief, and lack of  hope in the evidence that is not seen. For example: A family out of control, is  decline rapidly, no improvement in sight. How does one have faith to change an uncontrolled environment into a control one? when there are  fighting, fussing, yelling and screaming daily? One way to change this uncontrolled environment is to take full authority. Set boundaries immediately. Discontinue leaking words that breed death to the families core and began  saying words that speak life. No longer are words used like you will amount to nothing, try saying the way you fix this is great OR, the way you expressed your feeling today showed maturity great job.
Having the faith to know that your action and examples will influence any situation is a sign of maturity.
What is the point of conversation if every time it becomes a battle. One, daily battling is exhausting, it creates hopelessness , and it shreds away trust. The question becomes, Where is your faith? Are you willing to look beyond what you see and hold on to what has not manifested yet? Will you change your perception and tie the cords of  faith around you? It is about renewing the mind and not fearing change. 
There was a question posted on Facebook: What is the difference between leader and stubborn? Share your thoughts? Take a leap of faith belief In oneself prepare by renewing the mind. Spending energy on what ifs, will not work. What if and worry, belong in the land of doubt. Stay off this landmine it will destroy you. No matter what it looks like, take action immediately and change. I leave you with this thought: So a man thinks, so he is. What are you thinking today.

Trimming down the fat

He who is brave is free.

Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Brave, having the courage to face danger, difficulties, and pain. To examine courage, one would need to define what is courage, how does courage look, and how to apply courage. Sounds easy but, often challenging. A woman stayed in her dark room for months. She would speak to herself and imagine someone was there. For days without light her room darken. No one could understand the cause of her dark hours, only she knew it's cause. For 6 months darkness governed the doorways of her mind. In the six month she asked to go outside. Suddenly a break through. Imagine sitting at the foot of one's bed in darkness. The darkness of one's mind. What a joy when a sudden glimpse of hope arrives. It thanks courage.
DIFFICULTY
How many of us have experienced difficulties in our lives? It is amazing how the storms of life toss people to and fro. Everyone deals with difficulties differently. Some overeat, cover their problems with drugs and alcohol, and even become violent. What you face today may pave the way for some peace in your life. One of the goals of life is findings peace. Peace in your home's, family and in the work place. Without peace you will find agitation, anxiety, frustration and anger. Many of us experience these daily. 
The key is finding the root and dealing with it. For example: Money problems trim back, marital problems go back and review your vows together and seek counseling. If one dose not want to go then you go. Loneliness, it's Friday night and you are without a date treat yourself, plan a pamper party and invite 3 of your closes single friends and pamper one another. This could include facials, make up and nail care. For the men it's a video game night, card night with those few that feel the same. Sometimes we must relearn how to have fun.
I recalled an episode of twilight zone these elderly patient living in a home just wanted to remember their childhood games, fun times. One of the elderly male friends said, "stop thinking of this we are old and sick, can do these things any more." Well, the elderly friends imagined being young again and playing kick the can ran in the forest and became children again leaving the friend who believed himself to be sick, and old crying for them to take him too. 
So often we believe in what we can not do first without exploring what we can do. The question becomes, now that you know your thoughts play a major roll in life, what are you going to do about it? 
Trimming the fat includes your thoughts too.
PAIN
Pain comes in various forms, mental and physical. It can send your life twisting like a twister. Surely it is not fun and it affects each of us differently. 

Agonizing over circumstances,  leads to mental pain. Headaches, fatigue and physical distress are symptoms not wanted. We tire ourselves out agonizing over situations. 

I love this image. Finding yourself may mean removing other's out of your life.

Training the fat just like removing a little fat off the meat one side at a time. Negative people on one side of the list and positive on the other. No in between. If they are on the list distance yourselves.once you have found yourself, then slowly add them back.

Training down the fat is a painful process but, necessary. Start your trimming  today. The good news by the New year you will have a different perspective.

Whimpering in the night

A cry of distress, whimpering silently in the night. Who will come to your rescue.
Imagine a cry in the night, restless tossing, sleep deprivation. One would say, not me but, so often it is you. We worry and replay the old song in our overloaded brains if only I . Think about this for a moment. What comes to mind? It's a question only you can answer. Human nature includes putting up protective walls and then camouflage the surface. Here's the problem, the periphery of our minds spill over the walls built thus creating fragmented rocks which block our thinking.
Walls isolate and keep one under seize. Walls are created to hold back, prevent entrance and to hide. No matter why the wall was built, your perception behind the wall becomes your reality.sometimes, our walls cordon off other's. Of course there are some we need to cordon off. But, what about the walls of grief, sorrow and regret? How dose one begin to tear these walls down? There are people, some friends that face grief, sorrow and regret daily. It becomes so  overwhelming, we erect walls of protection. Sometimes we remain behind these walls for long periods of time, that the wall consumes us. Sinking behind the wall alone, confused and afraid.
Grief

Definition of grief (n)

Bing Dictionary

grief

 [ greef ]   

1. intense sorrow: great sadness, especially as a result of a death
2. cause of intense sorrow: the cause of intense, deep, and profound sorrow, especially a specific event or situation
3. trouble: annoyance or trouble

Trouble an annoyance that grieves us daily. Some trouble we can control, others we can not. For example a death out of our control, debt we can control, hurt feelings control and the direction in which we lead, our lives, we can both control and influence. Grieving is a norm process getting through each phase is the key. Staying stuck is the problem. This wall, like a clay model we must chisel away until the form is perfected.

SORROW 

An unfortunate event like marrying the wrong person, for all the wrong reasons, involving yourselves in something you know is wrong. Sometimes we get in so deeply we loose our way. Can we recover absolutely. It begins with a decision to let go and to take charge of your life. It may mean whimpering in the night, pacing back and forth, coming up with a plan but, it will beat balling up in a fetal position sinking further into an isolated state.

REGRET

Below is a link it's an article on 10 ways to release regret. I'm sure it will enlighten you 

http://www.beliefnet.com/Inspiration/2010/02/10-Ways-to-Release-Regrets.aspx?p=2

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Strings that dangle

When someone is controlling, what do you do? A controlling person is difficult to be around. There are many people challenged daily. If you are a controlling person, who believes nothing is wrong, think again. Controlling others through intimidation, and manipulation are character flaws. Controlling people love and audience, the more people, the better. Struggling with inner self esteem is the root, and the branches hold these fruits; Outburst, temper tantrums, believing you are the problem, and pointing out your inadequacies. What a pill to swallow.
OUTBURST
Controlling people rarely have a good listening ear. Their defense wall is up before you arrive. The question becomes: Is this normal in the minds of a controlling person? Controlling and diminishing the value of others is a problem. But, for the controller it is the name of the game. Outburst can occurs at any time. It's the knee jerk response to everything.Egg shell walking is the roll for the controlled. If you tip toe and walk on eggshells, how's that working for you? One would quest not good.
TEMPER TANTRUMS
Oh boy here comes the fit attach. Beware, throwing nasty words and tearing down your confidence is coming. What strategies do you implement when controlling people have temper tantrums? It is not easy dealing with outburst and temper tantrums. This is exhausting. Boundaries are the keys in changing the way one approaches and speaks to
you..Just imagine your key ring dangling every time the controller yells, screams or demean you. It would distract the controller immediately. Set boundaries.
THE PROBLEM
So often controlling people, believe the controlled person is the problem. A controlling persons common words include; It's because of you, if you had not, why did you make me, see what you've done, and I told you. The controller dose not compliment. They will point out your flaws. When your flaws are pointed out, the controllers flaws and inadequacies are not exposed. Recognizing their own issue is not a priority, after all perfection is their model.
Learning how to recognize controlling people will help you change how you deal with them. Below is a link to a post on recognizing a controlling person. Leave a comment below, I would live to read your views on this topic.
http://m.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-Controlling-Person

Memorial Day Celebrations: Let Freedom Ring

Forbes Thought Of The Day

“ The happiness of this life depends less on what befalls you then the way in which you take it. ”

— Elbert Hubbard
What creates happiness in the current life you lead? How do you create an attitude of gratitude when issues befalls upon you? This quote may have many meaning what is yours?

Today we celebrate Memorial day there are many people who have visited Veteran Cemeteries and Veteran Walls to honor the men and women who have lost their lives protecting, and serving in all arm forces. When I think about how we complain daily there is others grieving honorably for their love ones. Its very difficult to take our eye off of personal issues and choose a day of gratitude and gratefulness. It is our duty to respect what this country stands for which is freedom to go and come as we choose, without restrictions. I realize that some will comment that we are not totally free, and there is some truth in that, however, freedom as a whole exist, and we must continue to fight for it on all levels. 

Our Soldiers need our support abroad and at home. Although this is their calling to protect and serve, our roll is to support. The support you provide must be determined by you. For me its through prayer. 



Here you see a troop praying for each other it is really all they have. The men and women who have sacrificed their lives to protect and serve this country. Our Veterans. 



I'm happy to have a few days off from work and spend time with my family, however, knowing the reason for this day is equally important. It is about understanding the history and sharing it with generations to come. Below is a link on the history of Memorial Day from the Public and Intergovernmental Affairs. Are we saying not to barbecue, picnic and enjoy the beach today absolutely not. Take a moment during your celebrations and reflect on the men and women who have sacrificed their lives so you can enjoy the fruits of their labor today.

http://www.va.gov/opa/speceven/memday/history.asp?utm_source=3birds&utm_medium=Web&utm_campaign=AUBURNVW_Fun+Facts+About+Memorial+Day

                                       

Whether you believe in the power of pray our not today is a great day to say an encouraging word for your troops. The one think we can all agree on, is our troops have sacrificed their lives so that we can celebrate freely today. At 3 pm today take a moment of silence to remember our troops and the men and women who have died serving this wonderful country we live in. Happy Memorial Day and may God Bless Your Day

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Host Blog Guest: Ascending the heights of the San Francisco Peak

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I wanted to share this blog written by a grandfather about the recent success of his grand son. A proud moment from one man's journey to his road of success. When a young man decides to reach for his dreams it takes drive and determination. This young man turned what looked slim into the highest honor given from NAU.What an accomplishment.

This story inspires many. It is intended to promote the expansion of a dream. Just a small introduction to the author and young man. Allen Carter is a Businessman  a Toastmaster speaker,  and an excellent writer. Frederickallen a grandson who's destiny is Medicine. Leave a comment below. How does a dream become a reality?

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Host Blog:Are you a highjacker

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This blog was written by Terri Patio, she is a mentor with a mentoring heart. The title of this blog is are you a hijacker? Terri provides definitions and stimulates your thinking. The question becomes is this you? There is blog etiquette, respect of the author. Comments left on any one's blog should be relevant. Talking about you blog and business in the comment is inappropriate, unless you had been asked. The author is looking for discussion. Many times the author will leave you with a question. 

One way to comment on a blog is take the content and discuss. Like this one there is good content that will draw conversation and create discussion. Terri is a member of Ibotoolbox, if you are not you will be able to share which I recommend. But, feel free to leave your comment below.I would love to hear your thoughts. 

On my review of this blog I give it 5 stars.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Host Blog: The Power of Positive thinking

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 Has negative talk disabled your thinking? 

Some parents find it difficult and challenging to speak positive and affirm other's. Why? Because of the parenting  they received as a child.
 Of course no one is perfect. We all have made some bad choices in the manner in which we have spoken to our children. In Ron's blog, 
he touches on the importance of positive thinking. I found this blog informative it will cause some of us to reflect on our own lives. I will not
Write long, because his blog speaks for itself. Share your thoughts in the comment section. I'd love to 
Hear your thoughts.

                                                            We are products of our families

                                                    Create a positive affirmations board 

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Oh, My another decision to make:Help I'm torn

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“Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Silver Chair.          

HEY help I'm drowning over here.

I remember my first divorce, what a tragedy at least it appeared that way.  My life became a storm roller coaster with only one rider me. Oh how I cried. Speak about decisions, could not decide to make one. I cried for weeks. I was pregnant and did not know how or what the future held. One evening my dad entered what I called the crying room. He opens the door softly, and with his comforting voice he said, "don't you think you've cried enough." My dad closed the door. As I laid their hearing the sound of his voice, the tears began to dry up. Could it be my subconscious mind absorbed his question? I am not sure but, it spoke to my spirit and my heart heard it. The beginning of a new chapter began, as one ended.

What I decided, decisions become challenging when our life is in a world wind.  Thinking is no longer the priority, and leaving important things undone happens too. The question becomes: How does one recover and stop the roller coaster? Will it be easy? No, are there times when isolation and despair take over yes! The question becomes, What becomes of your life after tragedy strikes? Let's address the first question, to stop any roller coaster you have to decide it's time to stop. Once you make a decision to stop, it will be time to get off. Taking that first step to unleash yourself is difficult but, a must. 

What a breath of fresh air when the roller coaster stops, the ground may feel quite shaky so brace yourself. Will you have intermittent sorrow? Absolutely, but know that life goes on and living is a must. At, least for me it was. Tragedy will hit each of us in one way or another it is apart of life. In order to recover one must exams self, and reorganized daily activities. New beginnings are a great place to start. Learning how to balance activity and rest are key component during recovery. You may need to consider counseling too. Learn how to identify happiness, keep hope alive and begin living again. Was it rough for me to start again? Absolutely, but after the tears stop flowing, my decisions and choices became clear and I finally embraced hope. It's OK to cry for a time but after you stop crying you will need to make a decision. Here's to healthy decisions.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Collision course: When life leads you southward

The impact of one object coming forcibly into contact with another creating change. When our minds are headed towards a collision course the impact can be disastrous. I call it the 3 S' tonic that will pollute your thinking: Shocked, Smash and Splintered.

This tonic does not increase your energy, it saps the life out of you, it does not increase your intellect but dries up every crevasses of your brain like a dried desert, it weakens even the strongest mind.  Changes impact your entire life. It is the 3 S' tonic that pollutes our minds.

Shocked

Many people are stunned at the obstacles of life that affect our daily living. Take joblessness, a great impact on our economy. Our society thrives when people have created a job or working one. The life is sucked out of our society when people are not able to take care of their families. Some of us sit in our comfort and forget that it is not just about your life style but also the lifestyles of others. You may disagree but economically we thrive when we work together collectively. The shock of it all is seeing people challenged by change. Change in both their economic and personal status.

Smashed

This collision includes dreams deferred. The circumstances of life impact both vision and thinking. Some of us become trapped within the troubles that surround us daily. We take on every battle but, never find a solution. For example in a 1949 movie called Impact (Brian Donlevy, Ella Raines, and Charles Conburn) one of  betrayal and deception, placed a husband down a collision course full of trials and test that would change and weaken his life. He decided to change his painful thoughts to ideas of progress.

Splintered

A splinter lodged in your foot, hand or nails really hurts. It may take days before it is dislodge. The area may become hot and even swell. But, you pick and pick until the splinter is removed. The point, splinters may lodge, block off and even distract, it will be painful for some too, but decide that splintering is temporary and removable with a little effort.  Collisions drastically impact our lives. The question becomes: What collision course are you on, and how has it impacted your life?

The key is to set your head right, set the right goals, set the right activities and regular review what you are doing. Know that distractions are all around us some self imposed, but keep focus stay in the game and thrive. The collision you are currently on may become the catalyst you need.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Host Blog: finding your niche start by identifying your passion

http://www.thenewfutureofnetworkmarketing.com/2010/07/finding-niche-starts-identifying/

This article I found interesting. It is written by Faith Barnard.

The challenge is to identify our niche. This is challenging. Have you identified your passion? I enjoy encouraging and edifying others, this brings me joy. Faith shares important points like what is unique about your offer? I like this because it stretches creative thinking. It further discusses branding yourself, adding your personal touch, and style coupled with skills. One example of branding if target through their red logo the style of the logo image, and song. I believe our branding is key in determining our followers.

Another important point Faith identifies is: Identifying your target audience. Who will your information attract? This is an important step in developing your niche. Key point cater to the needs of your target audience. This article is packed with great information. It is useful in the development of your business. Everyone want clients and prospects, building foundational processes will help move your niche forward. A good question to ask oneself, Why should I buy your product.

I hope you find this article helpful. What are you doing to create a culture of people that love your niche? Set the passion and shine.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

The aromas of my kitchenette : Rava Ladoo

The aromas of my kitchenette : Rava Ladoo: Rava Ladoo is an easy Indian sweet made with roasted semolina, ghee and dry fruits. It is a simple sweet which is usually made for special...

Getting down to Business: What are your Challenges

Learning to apply yourself with the serious matter of business. Getting down to business includes determining what you will develop, its all about supply and demand. What is the point in developing product and services that no one needs? Most people get stuck at the development stages of a business. One key component in development is planning. Write the plans clear and simple. I wonder what went through the mind of Gates, Forbes and many other big business experts? How many hard knocks did it take before the final product was completed. Sometimes, when the world is tumbling down around us, we contemplate and dream but, we never take action. What happens to a dream deferred? Today is a great day to start. 

    We need  desire and  passion for building a business. It takes time, and hard work. Prioritize daily will reduce burn out. Understand that the building of any profitable business requires full attention. Could you image a new business owner saying, oh well I work on the business tomorrow or the next day? Nurture your business. I found a great article on challenges in starting a business. You will find it interesting too. I have provided you with the link below,

http://www.mytopbusinessideas.com/challenges-of-starting-a-business/

we all need information it is what makes us grow. This article talks about building a business from scratch. It is like cooking there are ingredients needed. Yes, we can short cut in cooking adding substitute ingredients but, look out it may not come out the same. It is the same with business. There are steps to developing a business. Survey the need first. The writer of this article quoted two from Thomas Jefferson, you'll love them. Transforming business problems into business opportunities who is up for the challenge? One of the goals is developing a great business plan. I found this article compact with great ideas and suggestion to move your business idea to the next level.

Meet these challenges head on develop and plan

Great business begin with an opportunity that transforms an idea into an empire. Stick with it, never give up on your dreams. Remember Knowledge is power.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

It's Tip Time

I want to speak with you regarding building a better you. The key ingredient to solidifying your character is knowing your true self . Leaving behind the images others project on you. Some people build their image on the tailgating of others. This is quite frustrating. Knowing who you are  is the beginning steps in turning your life around.

Here are a few tips to begin building a better you

1. Laugh more
2. Don't take life so serious
3. No one thinks like you but you
4. Improve your social skills
5. Do not be a knee jerker
6. Smile more
7. Help others
8. Know it's okay to make a mistake just don't make the same mistake
9. Learn to love yourself
10. Stop being critical of self and others

Laughter is good for the soul learn to relax. Everything including your home based business is not that serious. Remember learn to live. Life is what you make it, stop regretting and wishing you should have  taken another path. It is never to late begin today.  There are people that become stressed out when others do not think like you think. There are various ways to share your vision. Remember some people need it spelled out and others catch the vision and run with it just by hearing. So, don't fret, choose the right strategy for the target audience.

 
Stop the knee jerk. Some of us react to situation before we investigate. The results of knee jerking is bad decisions. Take the time to exam thoroughly.

Helping others will bring you Joy It's not about disabling others but, enabling  through empowering people. We have all made mistakes, made a wrong turn lately? Learning from mistakes is important.

Learn to love all of you, from your head to you toes. Focusing on your flaws will bring you sorrow. It's okay to laugh at yourself.
Rid yourself of criticism unless it is positive enough to make change.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady
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Twin within a Twin

   http://youtu.be/xUrIQiqeTv0

This video is amazing. Pretty difficult to conceive, even the doctors were challenged by their findings. I'm sure this finding as many became the topic in training and among colleagues. What happens in utero? Cells going wild? The question becomes how did this man become pregnant? If his stomach begins to grow did anyone order ultrasound or a CAT-SCAN to see this earlier? I'm baffled?

What are your thought? How does this video make you feel? This is a short post but, packed with room for discussion. Hope you take s moment and drop a comment.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady.  

Ice City Freezes Attitudes and Excludes Others

 

The Ice House Freeze City

I describe Ice City as a place where self-centered people live. their street lamp,  light up the signs with words like: I'm first avenue, what about me boulevard, and  stay off my side Circle Drive.The citizens here promote self-centered businesses. Any services that benefit themselves is acceptable. Ice House has no leaders or rulers. there commonalties include maintaining, and promote self. 

 

The image is only for the noses

Have you every visited someone living in this city? Perhaps waved hello in passing? These citizen have attitudes that exclude you. Ice cool coffee is sweeter than those who live there. Where blends of Cafe' Ole  brings a smile  to most , not to these citizen. The characteristic of those privileged to live in Ice city include:   dry faced, no smiles, cold shoulder, and no eye contact. They never take the time to stop and ask anyone what they are doing, or how's it going? I'm sure you are wondering what is this post about?

I'm glad you asked it's about people who's nose is stuck in the air, lack courtsey, and will not give you the time of day. They are never interested in what you are doing. Like some friends we have. You call them and the entire conversation is about them. And, right before you hang up the phone, they ask you, how are the kids? You say fine and the friends says ok speak soon and hangs up. There are business leaders the same way cut you off, speak only to their success and never ask you how's your business, and do you need help.

They don't live across the street from Ice City, but snack dab in the 

middle. Remember this illustration only speaks to those people who are cold hearted and only think of themselves on every level. I'm sure it is not you? What are your thoughts? 


I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady







 

Go Your Own Way: If You Think You Can

For everyone of us that succeeds, it's because there's somebody there to show you the way out. The light doesn't always necessarily have to be in your family; for me it was teachers and school~Oprah Winfrey

 
As Oprah points out, we can succeed by learning from others. It may not be a family member but, a Teacher, friend, or Pastor. The key is learning. An open mind will accept new adventures. There are many avenues and pathways to take. Conventional learning through our educational system, and life experiences. Which every you prefer use the tools toward successful living. Successful living does not only include financial success. It also includes living your dreams.



It takes wisdom to travel roads that create successful living. The wisdom to seek knowledge, and information. The willingness to say, "I'm sorry I don't know, but I will find out." Receiving information from a resourceful person is just as important.  Traveling alone never inquiring of anyone causes stumbling. In my earlier days of Nursing, I would align myself with Nurses which were older and wiser. I wanted to learn everything they knew. I would ask questions, write notes and find a way to learn something new everyday. There are some people who just don't like others to tell them anything. I wonder why?

Learning new ways to create successfully living may not be easy but it is important. It does not mean to stop dreaming and working hard to achieve the dream. It means prepare, plan and act. Knowledge is power that is what Allen Carter says.The more information you have the easier to tackle challenges.
What are the current challenges in your life choking your dreams.There is always light at the end of the tunnel.


Let me encourage you to seek people that empower and bring the best out of you. Success is defined by you. If it brings happiness and joy to your life than all the money in the world will not change your success. Do not limit yourself, stay focus on your goals and reach for the stars. All things are possible if you just believe. Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you're going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus ~Oprah Winfrey

Use your energy wisely, maintain focus and never be afraid. Success is what you make it. Stay on course.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Will The Nuts Move Forward And Take A Bow: Its Your Day To Shine

I was speaking to my mom about the challenges I have speaking difficult people. My mom said, "A nut has several shells, you must find the soft spot to crack them open. Then they will hear you." I had to think about this, in my mind, I thought who wants to speak with a nut? To crack a nut, you need a nut cracker and once is open digging out the nut to eat takes time. The  question becomes: Is it worth the trouble opening  the lines of communication to a nut?

Well, get your chisel out and prepare to open the minds of your nutty friends and family. It may not be easy but, it maybe worth your time. The core of one's mind, is covered with layers of hard surface which block out new ideas and opportunities. The soft areas can be found deep in the shells of our being. Each of our shells have a hard surface difficult to break. The internal core of the nut holds our attitudes and behaviors. In order to clean the inner core one will need to knock open the shell.

Opening our shells exposes us to a world of newness, and opportunities that will change our lives. Playing nuts is a game like any other, neither better than tops, nor worse than cards. The games is played in various ways. There are holes' and bank" and "caps." But every game finishes up in the same way, one boy wins. And, as always, he would wins is a clever fellow, a smart fellow, a good fellow ~Shimon Aleichem.

Sometimes we must gather all our nuts break open their  shell, and get to the core, where effective listening, and learning takes place. In your nut state, find the nut cracker and open your shells.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

The Dastardly Lion

Words rich in meaning can be cheap in sounds effect ~ Dejan Stojanovic
It really does not cost us much to say kind words. Walking in kindness brings joy and peace to both the giver and receiver. In today's society , kind words like thank you, please, and you are welcome barely exist today. What has created this numbness in our vocabulary? The gentle nature of people has  drowned in pride. Pride shadows reasoning.

Pride denotes courage, strength, honor, and loyalty to the cause. What do you see in the
Photo? This is not prideful, a state of mind affecting one's reasoning. A prideful person sees nothing but himself, and here's no one either. Sure, there is time for stern strong words. However, there is a way to express oneself without d e meaning cruel words. Remember word pierce.

Some people believe Pride is a sin! What do you believe? Could it be the results one displays, or their action and attitude? It would be a great topic for discussion. The prideful words we US could affect the lives of others.sharing kindness reduces pride arrows from penetrating one's heart. The question becomes, how much focus time do you spend on being kind to others.

Lately in the news, violent outbreak at the Dodgers game.How sad. Loyal fans are proud to take their children to a game.. It appears there are other people taking game loyalty to extreme, taking fun out of the game. Not the proud we are looking for. We must be an example. We can not be the dastardly lion speaking evil nasty words to one another. If we implement this daily challenge, be kind to others joy will follow. Thank you for commenting and sharing your thoughts.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady