The Futile Mind

The Futile Mind

In the back of a dark crowded room lies the thought of a man. Pondering day and night in an attempt to disgusting truth  in its rarest form. Thinking its an old concept and yet many have not adapted to the process of thinking, perhaps the root is futile thinking. Lets explore the intricacies of thought processes. The purpose of this exploration, is to identify ones own thoughts and to determine how buzzard our own thinking can become. 

The bell rings every morning before the start of mans shift, he'd prepare each day but could not enter the work doors on time. His boss met with him to discuss the issue and his response was the work clock is faster than his own watch. The problem  is in the mans thinking. He believes the boss should change the time and set to meet and accommodate his thinking. How would you handle this issue? What thought process will you implement?  Believe it are not, many of us want others to adapt to our futile way of thinking, and really we need a reality check. 

Futile thinking produces nothing. 

Here's a clique used by many: Practice makes perfect. The question becomes if a fruitless, ineffective, non-producing mind practices the same way each day, will he be effective? What are your thoughts? Remember a futile mind is incapable of producing useful results. It take exercising your brain. Deliberate thinking. Our society has become dependent thinkers. Many of us want the thoughts of others. Technology, affords us immediate results. This is good but, for sluggish thinkers, it's a disaster. 

A man sets up camp in an area infested with red ants. Prior to his arrival he learned the area in which he would travel became  blocked with logs from trees. The man gets out of his 4 wheel drive, hooked a chain to the front of his car, and the log, in his attempts to back up his front end tore off. He asked himself why the front end became damage. But, the truth of the matter is his futile attempt to move logs from a fallen tree was ineffective from the beginning. Much of our problems lie in our thinking and perception. We must understand that our perception is our reality. 

The reality is, futile thinking produces nothing. 

To reduce futile thinking, the road maps of our mind must change. 

The safe course

Faith in oneself is the best and safest course.
Michelangelo

I was wondering how does one have faith in themselves. With daily failures and questions about the future, it seems impossible to believe in oneself. Well, that's the clique many would hope as a people we believe. Let us take it a little deeper. Faith, what does this really mean? Faith strong believe in someone or something (www.merrian-webster.com/dictionay/fatih)
The question becomes: If Faith in oneself is the best and safest course, would it be fair to say without faith your course is unsafe?
Having strong faith in self comes with lots of responsibilities. It includes making good decisions, remaining loyal to the cause and understanding when the course you've taken is unsafe. Having faith in what you decide to do requires investigation before you leap the wrong way.

Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of  things not seen (Hebrews 11;1 KJV). The core of the matter, is unbelief, and lack of  hope in the evidence that is not seen. For example: A family out of control, is  decline rapidly, no improvement in sight. How does one have faith to change an uncontrolled environment into a control one? when there are  fighting, fussing, yelling and screaming daily? One way to change this uncontrolled environment is to take full authority. Set boundaries immediately. Discontinue leaking words that breed death to the families core and began  saying words that speak life. No longer are words used like you will amount to nothing, try saying the way you fix this is great OR, the way you expressed your feeling today showed maturity great job.
Having the faith to know that your action and examples will influence any situation is a sign of maturity.
What is the point of conversation if every time it becomes a battle. One, daily battling is exhausting, it creates hopelessness , and it shreds away trust. The question becomes, Where is your faith? Are you willing to look beyond what you see and hold on to what has not manifested yet? Will you change your perception and tie the cords of  faith around you? It is about renewing the mind and not fearing change. 
There was a question posted on Facebook: What is the difference between leader and stubborn? Share your thoughts? Take a leap of faith belief In oneself prepare by renewing the mind. Spending energy on what ifs, will not work. What if and worry, belong in the land of doubt. Stay off this landmine it will destroy you. No matter what it looks like, take action immediately and change. I leave you with this thought: So a man thinks, so he is. What are you thinking today.

Trimming down the fat

He who is brave is free.

Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Brave, having the courage to face danger, difficulties, and pain. To examine courage, one would need to define what is courage, how does courage look, and how to apply courage. Sounds easy but, often challenging. A woman stayed in her dark room for months. She would speak to herself and imagine someone was there. For days without light her room darken. No one could understand the cause of her dark hours, only she knew it's cause. For 6 months darkness governed the doorways of her mind. In the six month she asked to go outside. Suddenly a break through. Imagine sitting at the foot of one's bed in darkness. The darkness of one's mind. What a joy when a sudden glimpse of hope arrives. It thanks courage.
DIFFICULTY
How many of us have experienced difficulties in our lives? It is amazing how the storms of life toss people to and fro. Everyone deals with difficulties differently. Some overeat, cover their problems with drugs and alcohol, and even become violent. What you face today may pave the way for some peace in your life. One of the goals of life is findings peace. Peace in your home's, family and in the work place. Without peace you will find agitation, anxiety, frustration and anger. Many of us experience these daily. 
The key is finding the root and dealing with it. For example: Money problems trim back, marital problems go back and review your vows together and seek counseling. If one dose not want to go then you go. Loneliness, it's Friday night and you are without a date treat yourself, plan a pamper party and invite 3 of your closes single friends and pamper one another. This could include facials, make up and nail care. For the men it's a video game night, card night with those few that feel the same. Sometimes we must relearn how to have fun.
I recalled an episode of twilight zone these elderly patient living in a home just wanted to remember their childhood games, fun times. One of the elderly male friends said, "stop thinking of this we are old and sick, can do these things any more." Well, the elderly friends imagined being young again and playing kick the can ran in the forest and became children again leaving the friend who believed himself to be sick, and old crying for them to take him too. 
So often we believe in what we can not do first without exploring what we can do. The question becomes, now that you know your thoughts play a major roll in life, what are you going to do about it? 
Trimming the fat includes your thoughts too.
PAIN
Pain comes in various forms, mental and physical. It can send your life twisting like a twister. Surely it is not fun and it affects each of us differently. 

Agonizing over circumstances,  leads to mental pain. Headaches, fatigue and physical distress are symptoms not wanted. We tire ourselves out agonizing over situations. 

I love this image. Finding yourself may mean removing other's out of your life.

Training the fat just like removing a little fat off the meat one side at a time. Negative people on one side of the list and positive on the other. No in between. If they are on the list distance yourselves.once you have found yourself, then slowly add them back.

Training down the fat is a painful process but, necessary. Start your trimming  today. The good news by the New year you will have a different perspective.

Whimpering in the night

A cry of distress, whimpering silently in the night. Who will come to your rescue.
Imagine a cry in the night, restless tossing, sleep deprivation. One would say, not me but, so often it is you. We worry and replay the old song in our overloaded brains if only I . Think about this for a moment. What comes to mind? It's a question only you can answer. Human nature includes putting up protective walls and then camouflage the surface. Here's the problem, the periphery of our minds spill over the walls built thus creating fragmented rocks which block our thinking.
Walls isolate and keep one under seize. Walls are created to hold back, prevent entrance and to hide. No matter why the wall was built, your perception behind the wall becomes your reality.sometimes, our walls cordon off other's. Of course there are some we need to cordon off. But, what about the walls of grief, sorrow and regret? How dose one begin to tear these walls down? There are people, some friends that face grief, sorrow and regret daily. It becomes so  overwhelming, we erect walls of protection. Sometimes we remain behind these walls for long periods of time, that the wall consumes us. Sinking behind the wall alone, confused and afraid.
Grief

Definition of grief (n)

Bing Dictionary

grief

 [ greef ]   

1. intense sorrow: great sadness, especially as a result of a death
2. cause of intense sorrow: the cause of intense, deep, and profound sorrow, especially a specific event or situation
3. trouble: annoyance or trouble

Trouble an annoyance that grieves us daily. Some trouble we can control, others we can not. For example a death out of our control, debt we can control, hurt feelings control and the direction in which we lead, our lives, we can both control and influence. Grieving is a norm process getting through each phase is the key. Staying stuck is the problem. This wall, like a clay model we must chisel away until the form is perfected.

SORROW 

An unfortunate event like marrying the wrong person, for all the wrong reasons, involving yourselves in something you know is wrong. Sometimes we get in so deeply we loose our way. Can we recover absolutely. It begins with a decision to let go and to take charge of your life. It may mean whimpering in the night, pacing back and forth, coming up with a plan but, it will beat balling up in a fetal position sinking further into an isolated state.

REGRET

Below is a link it's an article on 10 ways to release regret. I'm sure it will enlighten you 

http://www.beliefnet.com/Inspiration/2010/02/10-Ways-to-Release-Regrets.aspx?p=2

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Strings that dangle

When someone is controlling, what do you do? A controlling person is difficult to be around. There are many people challenged daily. If you are a controlling person, who believes nothing is wrong, think again. Controlling others through intimidation, and manipulation are character flaws. Controlling people love and audience, the more people, the better. Struggling with inner self esteem is the root, and the branches hold these fruits; Outburst, temper tantrums, believing you are the problem, and pointing out your inadequacies. What a pill to swallow.
OUTBURST
Controlling people rarely have a good listening ear. Their defense wall is up before you arrive. The question becomes: Is this normal in the minds of a controlling person? Controlling and diminishing the value of others is a problem. But, for the controller it is the name of the game. Outburst can occurs at any time. It's the knee jerk response to everything.Egg shell walking is the roll for the controlled. If you tip toe and walk on eggshells, how's that working for you? One would quest not good.
TEMPER TANTRUMS
Oh boy here comes the fit attach. Beware, throwing nasty words and tearing down your confidence is coming. What strategies do you implement when controlling people have temper tantrums? It is not easy dealing with outburst and temper tantrums. This is exhausting. Boundaries are the keys in changing the way one approaches and speaks to
you..Just imagine your key ring dangling every time the controller yells, screams or demean you. It would distract the controller immediately. Set boundaries.
THE PROBLEM
So often controlling people, believe the controlled person is the problem. A controlling persons common words include; It's because of you, if you had not, why did you make me, see what you've done, and I told you. The controller dose not compliment. They will point out your flaws. When your flaws are pointed out, the controllers flaws and inadequacies are not exposed. Recognizing their own issue is not a priority, after all perfection is their model.
Learning how to recognize controlling people will help you change how you deal with them. Below is a link to a post on recognizing a controlling person. Leave a comment below, I would live to read your views on this topic.
http://m.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-Controlling-Person