Strings that dangle

When someone is controlling, what do you do? A controlling person is difficult to be around. There are many people challenged daily. If you are a controlling person, who believes nothing is wrong, think again. Controlling others through intimidation, and manipulation are character flaws. Controlling people love and audience, the more people, the better. Struggling with inner self esteem is the root, and the branches hold these fruits; Outburst, temper tantrums, believing you are the problem, and pointing out your inadequacies. What a pill to swallow.
OUTBURST
Controlling people rarely have a good listening ear. Their defense wall is up before you arrive. The question becomes: Is this normal in the minds of a controlling person? Controlling and diminishing the value of others is a problem. But, for the controller it is the name of the game. Outburst can occurs at any time. It's the knee jerk response to everything.Egg shell walking is the roll for the controlled. If you tip toe and walk on eggshells, how's that working for you? One would quest not good.
TEMPER TANTRUMS
Oh boy here comes the fit attach. Beware, throwing nasty words and tearing down your confidence is coming. What strategies do you implement when controlling people have temper tantrums? It is not easy dealing with outburst and temper tantrums. This is exhausting. Boundaries are the keys in changing the way one approaches and speaks to
you..Just imagine your key ring dangling every time the controller yells, screams or demean you. It would distract the controller immediately. Set boundaries.
THE PROBLEM
So often controlling people, believe the controlled person is the problem. A controlling persons common words include; It's because of you, if you had not, why did you make me, see what you've done, and I told you. The controller dose not compliment. They will point out your flaws. When your flaws are pointed out, the controllers flaws and inadequacies are not exposed. Recognizing their own issue is not a priority, after all perfection is their model.
Learning how to recognize controlling people will help you change how you deal with them. Below is a link to a post on recognizing a controlling person. Leave a comment below, I would live to read your views on this topic.
http://m.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-Controlling-Person

Memorial Day Celebrations: Let Freedom Ring

Forbes Thought Of The Day

“ The happiness of this life depends less on what befalls you then the way in which you take it. ”

— Elbert Hubbard
What creates happiness in the current life you lead? How do you create an attitude of gratitude when issues befalls upon you? This quote may have many meaning what is yours?

Today we celebrate Memorial day there are many people who have visited Veteran Cemeteries and Veteran Walls to honor the men and women who have lost their lives protecting, and serving in all arm forces. When I think about how we complain daily there is others grieving honorably for their love ones. Its very difficult to take our eye off of personal issues and choose a day of gratitude and gratefulness. It is our duty to respect what this country stands for which is freedom to go and come as we choose, without restrictions. I realize that some will comment that we are not totally free, and there is some truth in that, however, freedom as a whole exist, and we must continue to fight for it on all levels. 

Our Soldiers need our support abroad and at home. Although this is their calling to protect and serve, our roll is to support. The support you provide must be determined by you. For me its through prayer. 



Here you see a troop praying for each other it is really all they have. The men and women who have sacrificed their lives to protect and serve this country. Our Veterans. 



I'm happy to have a few days off from work and spend time with my family, however, knowing the reason for this day is equally important. It is about understanding the history and sharing it with generations to come. Below is a link on the history of Memorial Day from the Public and Intergovernmental Affairs. Are we saying not to barbecue, picnic and enjoy the beach today absolutely not. Take a moment during your celebrations and reflect on the men and women who have sacrificed their lives so you can enjoy the fruits of their labor today.

http://www.va.gov/opa/speceven/memday/history.asp?utm_source=3birds&utm_medium=Web&utm_campaign=AUBURNVW_Fun+Facts+About+Memorial+Day

                                       

Whether you believe in the power of pray our not today is a great day to say an encouraging word for your troops. The one think we can all agree on, is our troops have sacrificed their lives so that we can celebrate freely today. At 3 pm today take a moment of silence to remember our troops and the men and women who have died serving this wonderful country we live in. Happy Memorial Day and may God Bless Your Day

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Host Blog Guest: Ascending the heights of the San Francisco Peak

http://allencarter32.blogspot.com

I wanted to share this blog written by a grandfather about the recent success of his grand son. A proud moment from one man's journey to his road of success. When a young man decides to reach for his dreams it takes drive and determination. This young man turned what looked slim into the highest honor given from NAU.What an accomplishment.

This story inspires many. It is intended to promote the expansion of a dream. Just a small introduction to the author and young man. Allen Carter is a Businessman  a Toastmaster speaker,  and an excellent writer. Frederickallen a grandson who's destiny is Medicine. Leave a comment below. How does a dream become a reality?

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Host Blog:Are you a highjacker

http://www.ibosocial.com/mspattiomentor/pressrelease.aspx?prid=363714

This blog was written by Terri Patio, she is a mentor with a mentoring heart. The title of this blog is are you a hijacker? Terri provides definitions and stimulates your thinking. The question becomes is this you? There is blog etiquette, respect of the author. Comments left on any one's blog should be relevant. Talking about you blog and business in the comment is inappropriate, unless you had been asked. The author is looking for discussion. Many times the author will leave you with a question. 

One way to comment on a blog is take the content and discuss. Like this one there is good content that will draw conversation and create discussion. Terri is a member of Ibotoolbox, if you are not you will be able to share which I recommend. But, feel free to leave your comment below.I would love to hear your thoughts. 

On my review of this blog I give it 5 stars.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Host Blog: The Power of Positive thinking

http://syndicationexpress.ning.com/m/blogpost?id=6585224%3ABlogPost%3A78130

 Has negative talk disabled your thinking? 

Some parents find it difficult and challenging to speak positive and affirm other's. Why? Because of the parenting  they received as a child.
 Of course no one is perfect. We all have made some bad choices in the manner in which we have spoken to our children. In Ron's blog, 
he touches on the importance of positive thinking. I found this blog informative it will cause some of us to reflect on our own lives. I will not
Write long, because his blog speaks for itself. Share your thoughts in the comment section. I'd love to 
Hear your thoughts.

                                                            We are products of our families

                                                    Create a positive affirmations board 

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Oh, My another decision to make:Help I'm torn

Quotes tagged as "decisions" (showing 1-30 of 276)

“Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Silver Chair.          

HEY help I'm drowning over here.

I remember my first divorce, what a tragedy at least it appeared that way.  My life became a storm roller coaster with only one rider me. Oh how I cried. Speak about decisions, could not decide to make one. I cried for weeks. I was pregnant and did not know how or what the future held. One evening my dad entered what I called the crying room. He opens the door softly, and with his comforting voice he said, "don't you think you've cried enough." My dad closed the door. As I laid their hearing the sound of his voice, the tears began to dry up. Could it be my subconscious mind absorbed his question? I am not sure but, it spoke to my spirit and my heart heard it. The beginning of a new chapter began, as one ended.

What I decided, decisions become challenging when our life is in a world wind.  Thinking is no longer the priority, and leaving important things undone happens too. The question becomes: How does one recover and stop the roller coaster? Will it be easy? No, are there times when isolation and despair take over yes! The question becomes, What becomes of your life after tragedy strikes? Let's address the first question, to stop any roller coaster you have to decide it's time to stop. Once you make a decision to stop, it will be time to get off. Taking that first step to unleash yourself is difficult but, a must. 

What a breath of fresh air when the roller coaster stops, the ground may feel quite shaky so brace yourself. Will you have intermittent sorrow? Absolutely, but know that life goes on and living is a must. At, least for me it was. Tragedy will hit each of us in one way or another it is apart of life. In order to recover one must exams self, and reorganized daily activities. New beginnings are a great place to start. Learning how to balance activity and rest are key component during recovery. You may need to consider counseling too. Learn how to identify happiness, keep hope alive and begin living again. Was it rough for me to start again? Absolutely, but after the tears stop flowing, my decisions and choices became clear and I finally embraced hope. It's OK to cry for a time but after you stop crying you will need to make a decision. Here's to healthy decisions.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady

Collision course: When life leads you southward

The impact of one object coming forcibly into contact with another creating change. When our minds are headed towards a collision course the impact can be disastrous. I call it the 3 S' tonic that will pollute your thinking: Shocked, Smash and Splintered.

This tonic does not increase your energy, it saps the life out of you, it does not increase your intellect but dries up every crevasses of your brain like a dried desert, it weakens even the strongest mind.  Changes impact your entire life. It is the 3 S' tonic that pollutes our minds.

Shocked

Many people are stunned at the obstacles of life that affect our daily living. Take joblessness, a great impact on our economy. Our society thrives when people have created a job or working one. The life is sucked out of our society when people are not able to take care of their families. Some of us sit in our comfort and forget that it is not just about your life style but also the lifestyles of others. You may disagree but economically we thrive when we work together collectively. The shock of it all is seeing people challenged by change. Change in both their economic and personal status.

Smashed

This collision includes dreams deferred. The circumstances of life impact both vision and thinking. Some of us become trapped within the troubles that surround us daily. We take on every battle but, never find a solution. For example in a 1949 movie called Impact (Brian Donlevy, Ella Raines, and Charles Conburn) one of  betrayal and deception, placed a husband down a collision course full of trials and test that would change and weaken his life. He decided to change his painful thoughts to ideas of progress.

Splintered

A splinter lodged in your foot, hand or nails really hurts. It may take days before it is dislodge. The area may become hot and even swell. But, you pick and pick until the splinter is removed. The point, splinters may lodge, block off and even distract, it will be painful for some too, but decide that splintering is temporary and removable with a little effort.  Collisions drastically impact our lives. The question becomes: What collision course are you on, and how has it impacted your life?

The key is to set your head right, set the right goals, set the right activities and regular review what you are doing. Know that distractions are all around us some self imposed, but keep focus stay in the game and thrive. The collision you are currently on may become the catalyst you need.

I'm Carolyn Coleman-Grady